Let’s face it, society has glamorized the busy, hustle and bustle lifestyle that we are all too accustomed to. Our society has taught us that time equals money, but isn’t that such an abstract idea? We’ve put a dollar value on something that is more valuable than what’s sitting in our bank account. Because the truth is, there’s always more money, but there’s not always more time.
We each have these expectations — Brently as a mother and full-time student, and Johanna as a college graduate and employee — that we have our days planned out. At the end of the day, we feel should have something to show for our time. It’s not enough to have a sense of pride or accomplishment but rather it should be something remarkable and tangible. This isn’t something unique to our lifestyles, but it’s something society has placed on each and every individual.
And there are lot of expectations of what that time should be allocated to; we’re expected to lead a productive work life, to spend quality with our families, to invest time into our physical form, to upkeep our homes and cars, to stay current on political and current events, etc. The list goes on and on and on.
But we have a challenge for ourselves and for others. Rather than living life at a neck-breaking pace — slow down. Go against the status quo.
Even though time is an abstract idea, we all live our lives according to a clock with a finite amount of hours each day. For illustration’s sake, let’s break down the expectations of the average working student’s week.
Whew! And that’s not even accounting for all the things on the list of what we feel like we should be doing just to meet basic life expectations. It’s no wonder priorities such as sleep or quiet time with God often get shoved down the to-do list.
We both have the habit of living life by the seat of our pants. That statement probably gives all of our readers a slight panic attack. You should know that we have both also done the crazy lifestyle where every minute has to be accounted for and maximized. And we’ll let you in on a little secret…we much prefer living off the time table.
We each wake up at a different time everyday according to what we or our family needs that day. We each have habitual things we do morning, afternoon, and night, but we don’t limit those things to a time of day. We’re not saying it’s time to chuck your day planner into the trash. Brently and Jo are both avid users of some sort of planning system to keep everything in check. But in our early years, we’ve learned that the stringent schedule doesn’t satisfy our beings nor does it support our wellness. Instead we’ve learned to focus intentionally on the things that we know should be in our lives because they edify us.
In the book of Luke, when Jesus visited Martha and Mary, Martha was too caught up with the details of serving to pay attention to what Jesus was saying.
And Jesus answered and said to her, ‘Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.’
Luke 10: 41-42
Our purpose is not of this world, so why do we live according to this world’s standard? The reality is, part of self care is knowing that you can’t accomplish everything you want, not everything on the to do list will get checked off, but that doesn’t mean your day wasn’t valued nor that it wasn’t worthy of celebration. Sometimes it’s the small things that mean the most; the conversation with an old friend or the extra 30 minutes before bedtime with your little one.
Do the things you love, and love the things you do because time isn’t money but rather so much more precious.