This has been a week. Actually, it’s insane to think that school just started on Monday. I’m sure we are all well aware of how hard it is to get into a good routine that makes day to day life a little easier, especially when one has a toddler.
You see, when we first had Warren, it was a little easier for our family to get into the swing of things. Babies are go-with-the-flow and as long as someone is there to love on them, they’re pretty okay. This year, things have changed.
Some of you may have seen that Warren started his first day at the babysitter’s on Monday as well. It’s weird to go from spending all our time (and I mean, all our time) loving on him and staying home, to hardly ever seeing him. We are spending considerably less time with him than before, and there’s no happy, smiley face to see between classes.
We only get so many weeks with them before they are off to college, and the more I think about that, the more I want to be in the moment with my little man.
But why am I sharing all of this with you? Well, I think it has to do with balance, and how we use our time. Before this semester I was not necessarily motivated to intentionally spend time with Warren but rather our time together just was. Now those few hours at night that we get to hang out is so much more important. We only get so many weeks with them before they are off to college, and the more I think about that, the more I want to be in the moment with my little man.
On the flip side of this, Warren being with the babysitter has given Brently and I time together as a couple. We have opportunities to go to lunch together if we want, or just sit on the couch and enjoy an episode of something on Netflix. This doesn’t negate our date nights but it has added yet another layer to our relationship and has allowed us time that just wasn’t there before. Do we miss Warren? You bet, but healthy parenting is so reliant on a healthy marriage, and frankly, we were both tired of putting our marriage last.
I share this because life is busy and hard and sometimes the last thing we want to do is put thought into our lives. But my goal for this year is to make sure I am intentionally living with my family rather than just going through the motions. I want to be sure that I am intentional in the way that I lead my family. Sometimes, that may mean taking Warren to the park in the evenings or playing trucks with him before bed, but I don’t want to miss out on any time with him just because I had a long day or I am “too tired”.
And the same thing goes for spending time with Brently. I want to make sure I am setting apart time for Brently and I that we would normally not get together. I DO NOT want to just go through the motions this semester and call it another one for the books. Rather I want this to be one of the best chapters of that book where my wife and kid can look back and say, “Wow, he really invested his time into us and created some great memories!”